When we are looking to do anything this is the first thing we think about. A highly motivated person lives in a world where they WANT TO do things, not all of us are so lucky
When you feel you have GOT TO do something either because you have been told to, no one else will or you see no productive benefit from it. This becomes a chore you lack the motivation to accomplish the chore to a good standard and in a reasonable amount of time or even to start it in the first place!
When you feel you NEED TO do something there is still reluctance although you can see a benefit, its still something you have to push yourself to do reaffirming the reason why you NEED TO do the Chore
WANT TO is a different matter. When we WANT TO do something we are motivated and driven to accomplish the task we look to do the best Job or to be on time.
Take Night Fisherman if the motivation was I’ve GOT TO do this, do you believe they would pack the car and go out on a cold rainy night to sit on a river bank. Maybe if they NEEDED TO it would be easier. IF we can move the Motivation to WANT TO ie) so my family can eat. I enjoy the peace and quiet. I enjoy the challenge.
Most things are possible when we can move the motivation through these three stages and an individual can say they WANT TO accomplish the Task
There will be times in your life when you have even less time than normal. For example, when you have very small children, have just started a business or are caring for an elderly relative. There may be very little that you can do to change your circumstances in times like these. But simply learning to accept where you are in life and knowing that this is a phase can help you to feel less stressed and to look forward to the future.
If you’re feeling stressed at work, talk to your manager about your workload. Sometimes it can help to review priorities together to help you schedule your work. Employers need to be aware of where pressures lie in order to address them.
Look after yourself
Take proper breaks when you’re at work, regularly skipping lunch or not drinking enough water during the day will only make you feel worse. Exercise helps to reduce stress levels so join a gym or go for a long walk after work. Taking time out to have a long bath or watch a film can also help you relax and disconnect from work pressures.
Smart phones and tablets are great for staying in touch but they also mean we can be online 24/7 – even when we’re not at work. Try to set a deadline each day to switch off your work phone and stop checking emails. When you’re on holidays try to avoid taking work calls or picking up emails. Before you go on leave, make time with your manager or line reports to plan cover for work while you’re away. If there’s something really urgent you need to deal with, try to agree a short window of time when you can respond and stick to that.
Expand your timetable
If it’s simply not possible to fit everything into one week, consider expanding your timetable. Rather than stressing and ultimately failing to manage that meal with your partner or a meet up with friends, consider scheduling on a fortnightly or even monthly basis. It may not be ideal, but it may be more realistic and less likely to fail.
If you’re going through a particularly demanding time in your life, get as much help as you can. There are a host of technological miracles from online shopping to the dishwasher. Ask a friend to help with errands or ask a sibling or grandparent to babysit. You’d do the same for them if the situation was reversed.
Don’t be a perfectionist
Remember that when you’re very busy it’s better to let your standards slip than your relationships. Any meal tastes better when it’s eaten together and you can’t see the clutter by candlelight.
Schedule time together
Lots of people feel it’s far too formal to schedule time together as a couple or as a family. But sometimes setting aside regular time to see each other is the only way to make it happen. Agree a regular date night when you have a meal together or go to the cinema, knowing that you have to be somewhere by a certain time also helps you leave work on time. Similarly, planning to meet friends after work helps you stay in touch and a good chat can help you de-stress if you’ve had a tough day.
Think quality, not quantity
If you only have a short period of time to play with, then make every second count. Book times when you can talk as well as times when you can crash out together on the sofa and watch a film. And remember that nowadays it can be easy to keep in touch during the day. Get into the habit of exchanging texts, making a phone call, or meeting for lunch if you work near each other. Do whatever you can to keep in touch.
Consider your priorities
If you’ve tried everything above and you still don’t feel you have enough time as a couple, then you may have to have a long hard look at your priorities
Bring a balance to your life
By completing your personal Wheel of life, you will be able to look at all aspects of your life.
Enabling you to fine tune each individual section for your greater benefit. Instead of focusing on just one part and allowing that to overwhelm all others.
You can contact me for a personal session or Come and join my fun workshop to examine your wheel of life. Find out where improvements could be made to make your life more balanced, and where you can take back control.
This is a great Visual exercise tool, to help you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting or creating personal targets.
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