10 ways to a balanced Family life

10 ways to a balanced Family life

  1. Accept your life stage

There will be times in your life when you have even less time than normal. For example, when you have very small children, have just started a business or are caring for an elderly relative. There may be very little that you can do to change your circumstances in times like these. But simply learning to accept where you are in life and knowing that this is a phase can help you to feel less stressed and to look forward to the future.

  1. Speak up

If you’re feeling stressed at work, talk to your manager about your workload. Sometimes it can help to review priorities together to help you schedule your work. Employers need to be aware of where pressures lie in order to address them.

  1. Look after yourself

Take proper breaks when you’re at work, regularly skipping lunch or not drinking enough water during the day will only make you feel worse. Exercise helps to reduce stress levels so join a gym or go for a long walk after work. Taking time out to have a long bath or watch a film can also help you relax and disconnect from work pressures.

  1. Switch off

Smart phones and tablets are great for staying in touch but they also mean we can be online 24/7 – even when we’re not at work. Try to set a deadline each day to switch off your work phone and stop checking emails. When you’re on holidays try to avoid taking work calls or picking up emails. Before you go on leave, make time with your manager or line reports to plan cover for work while you’re away. If there’s something really urgent you need to deal with, try to agree a short window of time when you can respond and stick to that.

  1. Expand your timetable

If it’s simply not possible to fit everything into one week, consider expanding your timetable. Rather than stressing and ultimately failing to manage that meal with your partner or a meet up with friends, consider scheduling on a fortnightly or even monthly basis. It may not be ideal, but it may be more realistic and less likely to fail.

  1. Get help

If you’re going through a particularly demanding time in your life, get as much help as you can. There are a host of technological miracles from online shopping to the dishwasher. Ask a friend to help with errands or ask a sibling or grandparent to babysit. You’d do the same for them if the situation was reversed.

  1. Don’t be a perfectionist

Remember that when you’re very busy it’s better to let your standards slip than your relationships. Any meal tastes better when it’s eaten together and you can’t see the clutter by candlelight.

  1. Schedule time together

Lots of people feel it’s far too formal to schedule time together as a couple or as a family. But sometimes setting aside regular time to see each other is the only way to make it happen. Agree a regular date night when you have a meal together or go to the cinema, knowing that you have to be somewhere by a certain time also helps you leave work on time. Similarly, planning to meet friends after work helps you stay in touch and a good chat can help you de-stress if you’ve had a tough day.

  1. Think quality, not quantity

If you only have a short period of time to play with, then make every second count. Book times when you can talk as well as times when you can crash out together on the sofa and watch a film. And remember that nowadays it can be easy to keep in touch during the day. Get into the habit of exchanging texts, making a phone call, or meeting for lunch if you work near each other. Do whatever you can to keep in touch.

  1. Consider your priorities

If you’ve tried everything above and you still don’t feel you have enough time as a couple, then you may have to have a long hard look at your priorities

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10 ways to a balanced Family life

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Bring a balance to your life
By completing your personal Wheel of life, you will be able to look at all aspects of your life.
Enabling you to fine tune each individual section for your greater benefit. Instead of focusing on just one part and allowing that to overwhelm all others.
You can contact me for a personal session or Come and join my fun workshop to examine your wheel of life. Find out where improvements could be made to make your life more balanced, and where you can take back control.
This is a great Visual exercise tool, to help you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting or creating personal targets.
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What Do You Want Most From Your Life?

What Do You Want Most From Your Life?

What Do You Want Most From Your Life?

 

Wealth?

Power?

Success?

Confidence?

 

Its your life, its  in your hands

Emma Gathergood, author of ‘Overcoming Anxiety and Depression Naturally’, uses a this analogy when introducing the idea of “wholism” to her clients.

She describes a beach ball with its body made of 4 different colours. From the side view you only see one colour, but from the top you can see a little of all of them.

As we go about our lives we often get stuck with one perspective on a situation.   We may be so fully engrossed that we don’t notice anything at all and blindly go on.

Working with you we can review of all aspects of your life.  This is because for a healthy lifestyle we need to be focussing on all aspects not just one or two.

For example if we focus so much on fun and leisure, and ignore careers and money, I don’t need to point out the future problem there.

There are always overlaps between each section.  Exploring these and working though the barriers brings balance to your life and happiness.

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Struggling with Motivation

Struggling with Motivation
struggling with motivation

GOT TO, NEED TO, WANT TO

When we are looking to do anything this is the first thing we think about.   A highly motivated person lives in a world where they WANT TO do things, not all of us are so lucky

When you feel you have GOT TO do something either because you have been told to, no one else will or you see no productive benefit from it.  This becomes a chore you lack the motivation to accomplish the chore to a good standard and in a reasonable amount of time or even to start it in the first place!

When you feel you NEED TO do something there is still reluctance although you can see a benefit, its still something you have to push yourself to do reaffirming the reason why you NEED TO do the Chore

WANT TO is a different matter.  When we WANT TO do something we are motivated and driven to accomplish the task we look to do the best Job or to be on time.

Take Night Fisherman if the motivation was I’ve GOT TO do this, do you believe they would pack the car and go out on a cold rainy night to sit on a river bank.  Maybe if they NEEDED TO it would be easier.   IF we can move the Motivation to WANT TO ie) so my family can eat.  I enjoy the peace and quiet.  I enjoy the challenge.

Most things are possible when we can move the motivation through these three stages and an individual can say they WANT TO accomplish the Task

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Had a bad month

Had a bad month

Well that’s January done     

had a bad month
Well that’s January done

How did it go ?

The drop in mood after Christmas.

The cold and the damp weather

Did you escape Divorce Monday?

Has the Credit Card bill arrived?

How did miserable Monday go?  The most depressing day of the year

Given up on the New Year Resolutions?

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Well that’s January done

5 ways to Improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted.

improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight
improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight

Tiger Woods, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson and Arnold Schwarzenegger are just a few examples of successful people that have had coaching and it’s no surprise that many of them have raved about its benefits.

More and more people are choosing to work with a life coach to help them improve their relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted or transition from an employee to an entrepreneur.

Assisting others to realise their strengths, enhance their self-awareness and create a better way of life are just a few of the ways a coach can help others to pave their way forwards.

If you are considering getting some coaching, below are 5 ways a coach could benefit you:

  1. Find your purpose
    A life coach can help you to discover what is meaningful to you away from the expectations or goals of others.
  2. Get clarity
    Working with a coach provides you with the opportunity to sort through your mental and emotional clutter so that you can gain clarity on your needs and wants.
  3. Enhanced self-reflection
    A life coach can provide you with a safe space to explore your inner world so that you’re able to gain valuable insight into who you really are. This can help you to identify your strengths and values, as well as learn what truly matters to you as an individual.
  4. Build confidence
    Working with a life coach can help you to feel more empowered with your decisions, encouraging you to stretch past your comfort zone and take daily action steps towards making your dream a reality. Combining your action steps with the support of a coach as you move forwards can help you to build your confidence and sense of pride.
  5. Maintain momentum
    A life coach understands how to break down a big goal into smaller more manageable steps, allowing you to avoid feelings of overwhelm and move at a pace that works for you. Stretching out of your comfort zone can present challenges and a life coach is able to assist you in overcoming any turbulence so that you can maintain motivation as you move towards the finish line of your goal.

Working with a coach can benefit your life in a variety of ways including improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight  but perhaps one of the most valuable benefits is avoiding the long route towards what it is that you want to achieve. Time is one of the most precious assets we have and a coach can help you to maximise the use of yours by helping you to plan out a direct route towards your destination, saving you time, frustrations and anxieties that may have previously stopped you.

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improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight

Do you understand your Family

Is understanding  more important than love, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.  Do you know any who adult looks back at there childhood and complain that her parents were too understanding.
Similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but yet they never really understood each other.  Don’t get this wrong. I think love is great. I love my children and all of my family.
Is love enough. I work every day at better understanding the people whom I love. The willingness to understand is very important.
It is not always easy, but healthy love is strengthened by the willingness to understand. Love without understanding ?
Well adjusted couples work and learn to understand one another’s evolving needs as the years go by. Alternatively, couples that bite the dust and divorce typically have suffered a breakdown in understanding, or empathy.
Countless individuals reflect back on failed marriages or intimate relationships and say, “I guess we just drifted apart.”  This often becomes translated to “I love you but I am no longer in love with you.” Most relationships implode or explode when one or both partners think this way,

When parents, children, spouses or other relationship partners think or say “I’m done with you”  are they really saying, “I can’t (or don’t want to) understand you.”
Our egos are what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us.
Empathy, is truly the emotional glue that holds all close relationships together. Empathy allows us to slow down and try to walk in the shoes of those we love. The deeper our empathy, the deeper-and healthier-our love. Not all relationships are meant to be. Yet all relationships that are meant to flourish in a healthy way.
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The Ripple Efect

 

Any one who as a HABIT/ADDICTION, will be engaged in behavior that has a negative effect on every one around them this is the Ripple effect 

Relationships, Home and Family life, Education, Employment, Health, Personality, Finances, The law.

It can be turned around

 

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Credit maxed out again

According to Shopaholics Anonymous, there are several different types of shopaholics, and they are as follows:

  • Compulsive shopaholics who shop when they are feeling emotional distress
  • Trophy shopaholics who are always shopping for the perfect item
  • Shopaholics who want the image of being a big spender and love flashy items
  • Bargain seekers who purchase items they don’t need because they are on sale
  • Bulimic shoppers who get caught in a vicious cycle of buying and returning
  • Collectors who don’t feel complete unless they have one item in each colour or every piece of a set

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Addiction

If you have found your way to this page you believe one or more of these statements

  • You have a problem
  • You have an addiction
  • You’re affected by someone who you believe has a problem
  • You want to do something about it
  • You want help but don’t know where to go
  • You’re interested in addiction issues

How can I help you?

Well I have spent the last 26 years within a criminal justice environment, the last 11 of these working as an Addiction councillor. 

Encouraging and coaching people who didn’t necessarily want help, to see there is a future,.

Helping them to explore their options.

 All of this with limited time frames and fixed protocols. I have worked with a number of models including ITEP,  Cognitive Behavioural Approaches, BSFT, Motivational interviewing,  Mental health awareness, Mental health first aid, and a number of other models linked to addiction.

One size does not fit all, we will tailor every plan to your individual needs and include

Motivation to change

The most important thing is your desire to Change your destructive behaviour.  So we will work on strengthening your Motivation to be free,

Goal planning

Who do you see when you look in the mirror are you comfortable with that person, do you congratulate them when you do well.  We will work together to build that relationship that person in the mirror is the one person you can’t lie to.

Coping strategies and triggers

Would you step in the road without looking ?   No ?  I doubt it, you know it’s dangerous and to be avoided.   So I will help you to know your danger areas/signs and build coping strategies to help you cope as you move forward.

Relapse prevention planning

I was doing so well what’s the point

Sound familiar? Sometimes you feel you have taken one step forward and ten back and feel nothing will ever change.  I will help you build your safe plan for the future,

Let’s be honest with ourselves nothing will happen over night, we will work at your pace, you will set your own achievable targets and praise yourself when your reach them

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