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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 4

Take it slow

If you’ve felt lonely for a long time, or even if you’re surrounded by people, it can be terrifying to think of trying to meet new people, or opening up to people for the first time.

The best approach to this is one day at a time. If you are not used to being in crowds or groups then forcing yourself to do this will be of no use and will in actual fact probably do more harm than good in the long run.

The trick is to find somewhere safe to go. Somewhere where there are no expectations of you. Somewhere you can share a common interest or goal. This might be a community project, a craft or hobby group or a local book club at your library.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself all at once. Join one thing and see how it goes. Make sure you are a good fit for it so that you actually enjoy it when you get there.

Once you are comfortable in that one group or place then think about joining another. You can build up your social life slowly, one group at a time.

Tomorrow I will share how to grow your confidence

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

Open up 

You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.

This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.

It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.

If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!

Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.

 

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