6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.

This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.

It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.

If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!

Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.

 

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

It can be helpful to think of feeling lonely like feeling hungry. Just as your body uses hunger to tell your body you need food, loneliness is a way of your body telling you that you need more social contact.

As humans, we are a social species. We are designed to be part of a larger group. This has been passed on to us through thousands of years of evolution. Those humans who grouped together stood a better chance of survival as they helped and nurtured each other.

These humans were the ones to survive and pass on their social genes. Today we are still a product of this natural selection and we need to feel part of something other than ourselves.

Although it can be daunting to go out and seek new friends there are plenty of people, groups and organisations there to help. Join clubs, churches, age concern or even online groups to help you get connected. There are hundreds of groups on Facebook that cover just about any subject you can imagine.

There are local charities that run all sorts of events to engage and include the local community, especially those who are otherwise excluded.

Tomorrow I will share some tips on how you can become less lonely even when you seem to have lots of friends around.

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

Think about what is making you lonely

Being alone is not the same as being lonely. There is nothing wrong with being on your own if you are comfortable with it.

People usually describe feeling lonely for one of two reasons:

  • They simply don’t see or talk to anyone very often
  • Even though they are surrounded by people, they don’t feel understood or cared for.

Identifying the reasons why you feel lonely can be the first step in finding company. Is it that you don’t or can’t get out much on your own? Is it that you don’t feel confident in a crowd and so avoid new people and places? Is it that you are new to a place and have not yet made any friends?

By knowing what is causing the loneliness it will be easier to do something about it so if this is how you feel, or how a loved one feels then try asking them to think about what would make things better for them.

Once you know what could make things better then you can get to work on a plan to make it happen.

Tomorrow I will talk about the importance of connection in our society and how you can help yourself to become more connected.

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Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Balance your life deal with Loneliness
Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Feeling lonely isn’t in itself a mental health problem, but the two are strongly linked. Having a mental health problem increases your chance of feeling lonely, and feeling lonely can have a negative impact on your mental health

Everyone has different social needs. You may be someone who is content with a few close friends, or you may need a large group of varied acquaintances to feel satisfied.

Bringing a balance to your life will help

Tomorrow 6 tips to Balance your life and deal with loneliness.

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5 ways to Improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted.

improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight
improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight

Tiger Woods, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson and Arnold Schwarzenegger are just a few examples of successful people that have had coaching and it’s no surprise that many of them have raved about its benefits.

More and more people are choosing to work with a life coach to help them improve their relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted or transition from an employee to an entrepreneur.

Assisting others to realise their strengths, enhance their self-awareness and create a better way of life are just a few of the ways a coach can help others to pave their way forwards.

If you are considering getting some coaching, below are 5 ways a coach could benefit you:

  1. Find your purpose
    A life coach can help you to discover what is meaningful to you away from the expectations or goals of others.
  2. Get clarity
    Working with a coach provides you with the opportunity to sort through your mental and emotional clutter so that you can gain clarity on your needs and wants.
  3. Enhanced self-reflection
    A life coach can provide you with a safe space to explore your inner world so that you’re able to gain valuable insight into who you really are. This can help you to identify your strengths and values, as well as learn what truly matters to you as an individual.
  4. Build confidence
    Working with a life coach can help you to feel more empowered with your decisions, encouraging you to stretch past your comfort zone and take daily action steps towards making your dream a reality. Combining your action steps with the support of a coach as you move forwards can help you to build your confidence and sense of pride.
  5. Maintain momentum
    A life coach understands how to break down a big goal into smaller more manageable steps, allowing you to avoid feelings of overwhelm and move at a pace that works for you. Stretching out of your comfort zone can present challenges and a life coach is able to assist you in overcoming any turbulence so that you can maintain motivation as you move towards the finish line of your goal.

Working with a coach can benefit your life in a variety of ways including improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight  but perhaps one of the most valuable benefits is avoiding the long route towards what it is that you want to achieve. Time is one of the most precious assets we have and a coach can help you to maximise the use of yours by helping you to plan out a direct route towards your destination, saving you time, frustrations and anxieties that may have previously stopped you.

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Do you understand your Family

Is understanding  more important than love, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.  Do you know any who adult looks back at there childhood and complain that her parents were too understanding.
Similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but yet they never really understood each other.  Don’t get this wrong. I think love is great. I love my children and all of my family.
Is love enough. I work every day at better understanding the people whom I love. The willingness to understand is very important.
It is not always easy, but healthy love is strengthened by the willingness to understand. Love without understanding ?
Well adjusted couples work and learn to understand one another’s evolving needs as the years go by. Alternatively, couples that bite the dust and divorce typically have suffered a breakdown in understanding, or empathy.
Countless individuals reflect back on failed marriages or intimate relationships and say, “I guess we just drifted apart.”  This often becomes translated to “I love you but I am no longer in love with you.” Most relationships implode or explode when one or both partners think this way,

When parents, children, spouses or other relationship partners think or say “I’m done with you”  are they really saying, “I can’t (or don’t want to) understand you.”
Our egos are what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us.
Empathy, is truly the emotional glue that holds all close relationships together. Empathy allows us to slow down and try to walk in the shoes of those we love. The deeper our empathy, the deeper-and healthier-our love. Not all relationships are meant to be. Yet all relationships that are meant to flourish in a healthy way.
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