10 ways to a balanced Family life

10 ways to a balanced Family life

  1. Accept your life stage

There will be times in your life when you have even less time than normal. For example, when you have very small children, have just started a business or are caring for an elderly relative. There may be very little that you can do to change your circumstances in times like these. But simply learning to accept where you are in life and knowing that this is a phase can help you to feel less stressed and to look forward to the future.

  1. Speak up

If you’re feeling stressed at work, talk to your manager about your workload. Sometimes it can help to review priorities together to help you schedule your work. Employers need to be aware of where pressures lie in order to address them.

  1. Look after yourself

Take proper breaks when you’re at work, regularly skipping lunch or not drinking enough water during the day will only make you feel worse. Exercise helps to reduce stress levels so join a gym or go for a long walk after work. Taking time out to have a long bath or watch a film can also help you relax and disconnect from work pressures.

  1. Switch off

Smart phones and tablets are great for staying in touch but they also mean we can be online 24/7 – even when we’re not at work. Try to set a deadline each day to switch off your work phone and stop checking emails. When you’re on holidays try to avoid taking work calls or picking up emails. Before you go on leave, make time with your manager or line reports to plan cover for work while you’re away. If there’s something really urgent you need to deal with, try to agree a short window of time when you can respond and stick to that.

  1. Expand your timetable

If it’s simply not possible to fit everything into one week, consider expanding your timetable. Rather than stressing and ultimately failing to manage that meal with your partner or a meet up with friends, consider scheduling on a fortnightly or even monthly basis. It may not be ideal, but it may be more realistic and less likely to fail.

  1. Get help

If you’re going through a particularly demanding time in your life, get as much help as you can. There are a host of technological miracles from online shopping to the dishwasher. Ask a friend to help with errands or ask a sibling or grandparent to babysit. You’d do the same for them if the situation was reversed.

  1. Don’t be a perfectionist

Remember that when you’re very busy it’s better to let your standards slip than your relationships. Any meal tastes better when it’s eaten together and you can’t see the clutter by candlelight.

  1. Schedule time together

Lots of people feel it’s far too formal to schedule time together as a couple or as a family. But sometimes setting aside regular time to see each other is the only way to make it happen. Agree a regular date night when you have a meal together or go to the cinema, knowing that you have to be somewhere by a certain time also helps you leave work on time. Similarly, planning to meet friends after work helps you stay in touch and a good chat can help you de-stress if you’ve had a tough day.

  1. Think quality, not quantity

If you only have a short period of time to play with, then make every second count. Book times when you can talk as well as times when you can crash out together on the sofa and watch a film. And remember that nowadays it can be easy to keep in touch during the day. Get into the habit of exchanging texts, making a phone call, or meeting for lunch if you work near each other. Do whatever you can to keep in touch.

  1. Consider your priorities

If you’ve tried everything above and you still don’t feel you have enough time as a couple, then you may have to have a long hard look at your priorities

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10 ways to a balanced Family life

Struggling with your relationship

Struggling with your relationship

RELATIONSHIP ISSUES?

Struggling with your relationship
Struggling with your relationship

Without trust, a relationship misses two of the key anchors to a strong bond: safety and security.

“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”

― Mark Twain

Your partner has different priorities and expectations regarding the relationship?

Does your partner see you as “Mister/Miss Right”, or “Mister/Miss Right Now”

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Struggling with your relationship

Struggling with Motivation

Struggling with Motivation
struggling with motivation

GOT TO, NEED TO, WANT TO

When we are looking to do anything this is the first thing we think about.   A highly motivated person lives in a world where they WANT TO do things, not all of us are so lucky

When you feel you have GOT TO do something either because you have been told to, no one else will or you see no productive benefit from it.  This becomes a chore you lack the motivation to accomplish the chore to a good standard and in a reasonable amount of time or even to start it in the first place!

When you feel you NEED TO do something there is still reluctance although you can see a benefit, its still something you have to push yourself to do reaffirming the reason why you NEED TO do the Chore

WANT TO is a different matter.  When we WANT TO do something we are motivated and driven to accomplish the task we look to do the best Job or to be on time.

Take Night Fisherman if the motivation was I’ve GOT TO do this, do you believe they would pack the car and go out on a cold rainy night to sit on a river bank.  Maybe if they NEEDED TO it would be easier.   IF we can move the Motivation to WANT TO ie) so my family can eat.  I enjoy the peace and quiet.  I enjoy the challenge.

Most things are possible when we can move the motivation through these three stages and an individual can say they WANT TO accomplish the Task

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Had a bad month

Had a bad month

Well that’s January done     

had a bad month
Well that’s January done

How did it go ?

The drop in mood after Christmas.

The cold and the damp weather

Did you escape Divorce Monday?

Has the Credit Card bill arrived?

How did miserable Monday go?  The most depressing day of the year

Given up on the New Year Resolutions?

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Well that’s January done

Bring Balance to your life

Bring Balance to your life
Bring Balance to your life

Bring Balance to your life

As a starting point for creating balance, happiness and success in your life, the Wheel of Life is the perfect tool.

Using this tool, you will be able to reflect and gain some insight into the balance of your life and how satisfied you are in life’s different areas.

Following on from this, you can utilise this exercise to further delve into why your wheel of life looks the way it does, what you would like your wheel of life to look like, and further into how to make it happen.

The Wheel of Life Exercise is not to be confused with the Buddhist Wheel of Life. The Wheel of Life used in Buddhism focuses more on an awareness of your mental state. In our Wheel of Life that is commonly used in coaching and goal-setting, it’s purpose is to identify how you’re currently spending your time and how satisfied you are in the different categories of your lif

Tomorrow how you can use the Wheel of life to bring a balance to your life

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Bring Balance to your life

 

Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Bring Balance to your life 

Balance your life deal with Loneliness
Balance your life deal with Loneliness

As a starting point for creating balance, happiness and success in your life.  The Wheel of Life is the perfect tool to begin your journey. Using this tool, you will be able to reflect and gain some insight into the balance of your life and how satisfied you are in life’s different areas. Following on from this, you can utilise this exercise to further delve into why your wheel of life looks the way it does, what you would like your wheel of life to look like, and further into how to make it happen.

The Wheel of Life Exercise is not to be confused with the Buddhist Wheel of Life. The Wheel of Life used in Buddhism focuses more on an awareness of your mental state. In our Wheel of Life that is commonly used in coaching and goal-setting, it’s purpose is to identify how you’re currently spending your time and how satisfied you are in the different categories of your life.

Next week how you can use the Wheel of life to bring a balance to your life

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Balance your life deal with Loneliness

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 6

Check how you are feeling

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 6
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 6

How are you feeling generally? Feeling lonely can be very stressful and can have a big impact on your general wellbeing, which might make it even harder to make positive steps to feeling better.

If you are feeling anxious, stressed or depressed then it is vitally important that you speak to a Doctor or seek other medical advice.  There is no shame in admitting that you have a problem, in fact it is the most sensible thing to do as then someone can help you to do something about it.

Being stressed or depressed will make it even harder for you to feel confident enough to go out and meet new people. It might also deteriorate into a more serious condition. Recognising the signs of depression and speaking to a professional about it might be all it takes to get you back on the road to recovery and a new life full of friends and connections.

In a few days  I will be talking about how to bring balance to your life and the benefits that this will have not only on yourself but your family and friends too

compliments of the season to you all

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 5

Be careful when comparing yourself to others 

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 5
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 5

It is very hard to stop comparing ourselves to others, we all do it, but it can help to just be aware that things are not always what they seem from the outside.

Everyone sees the world in a slightly different way, We see life through a lens. The lens is made up of our past experiences. These experiences will shape the way we view our surroundings, our friends, our lives and ourselves.

How your friend sees things will not necessarily be the way you see things. You will have had many debates about things in the past which will exemplify this.

Just because your friend is outgoing, the life and soul of the party and extraverted doesn’t mean that you should be the same. The great thing about you is that you are unique. There is no other person who is just like you – anywhere.

By bearing this in mind, you need to form your own opinions of what you like and what you don’t like. You should not be persuaded or coerced into doing something that you don’t like or don’t feel comfortable with. Peer pressure is a difficult thing to deny but deny you must. You need to make your own decisions about your life.

Once you have the courage to tell people what you want and what you like then you will find it much easier to do things you enjoy and avoid the things you don’t.

As mentioned in number 2, joining groups with like minded people who share a common interest or hobby cane be a great way to build connections and new friends and enjoy the process at the same time.

Tomorrow I will share the importance of checking your own feelings.

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 4

Take it slow

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 4
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 4

If you’ve felt lonely for a long time, or even if you’re surrounded by people, it can be terrifying to think of trying to meet new people, or opening up to people for the first time.

The best approach to this is one day at a time. If you are not used to being in crowds or groups then forcing yourself to do this will be of no use and will in actual fact probably do more harm than good in the long run.

The trick is to find somewhere safe to go. Somewhere where there are no expectations of you. Somewhere you can share a common interest or goal. This might be a community project, a craft or hobby group or a local book club at your library.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself all at once. Join one thing and see how it goes. Make sure you are a good fit for it so that you actually enjoy it when you get there.

Once you are comfortable in that one group or place then think about joining another. You can build up your social life slowly, one group at a time.

Tomorrow I will share how to grow your confidence

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

Open up 

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.

This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.

It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.

If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!

Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.

 

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness