10 ways to a balanced Family life

10 ways to a balanced Family life

  1. Accept your life stage

There will be times in your life when you have even less time than normal. For example, when you have very small children, have just started a business or are caring for an elderly relative. There may be very little that you can do to change your circumstances in times like these. But simply learning to accept where you are in life and knowing that this is a phase can help you to feel less stressed and to look forward to the future.

  1. Speak up

If you’re feeling stressed at work, talk to your manager about your workload. Sometimes it can help to review priorities together to help you schedule your work. Employers need to be aware of where pressures lie in order to address them.

  1. Look after yourself

Take proper breaks when you’re at work, regularly skipping lunch or not drinking enough water during the day will only make you feel worse. Exercise helps to reduce stress levels so join a gym or go for a long walk after work. Taking time out to have a long bath or watch a film can also help you relax and disconnect from work pressures.

  1. Switch off

Smart phones and tablets are great for staying in touch but they also mean we can be online 24/7 – even when we’re not at work. Try to set a deadline each day to switch off your work phone and stop checking emails. When you’re on holidays try to avoid taking work calls or picking up emails. Before you go on leave, make time with your manager or line reports to plan cover for work while you’re away. If there’s something really urgent you need to deal with, try to agree a short window of time when you can respond and stick to that.

  1. Expand your timetable

If it’s simply not possible to fit everything into one week, consider expanding your timetable. Rather than stressing and ultimately failing to manage that meal with your partner or a meet up with friends, consider scheduling on a fortnightly or even monthly basis. It may not be ideal, but it may be more realistic and less likely to fail.

  1. Get help

If you’re going through a particularly demanding time in your life, get as much help as you can. There are a host of technological miracles from online shopping to the dishwasher. Ask a friend to help with errands or ask a sibling or grandparent to babysit. You’d do the same for them if the situation was reversed.

  1. Don’t be a perfectionist

Remember that when you’re very busy it’s better to let your standards slip than your relationships. Any meal tastes better when it’s eaten together and you can’t see the clutter by candlelight.

  1. Schedule time together

Lots of people feel it’s far too formal to schedule time together as a couple or as a family. But sometimes setting aside regular time to see each other is the only way to make it happen. Agree a regular date night when you have a meal together or go to the cinema, knowing that you have to be somewhere by a certain time also helps you leave work on time. Similarly, planning to meet friends after work helps you stay in touch and a good chat can help you de-stress if you’ve had a tough day.

  1. Think quality, not quantity

If you only have a short period of time to play with, then make every second count. Book times when you can talk as well as times when you can crash out together on the sofa and watch a film. And remember that nowadays it can be easy to keep in touch during the day. Get into the habit of exchanging texts, making a phone call, or meeting for lunch if you work near each other. Do whatever you can to keep in touch.

  1. Consider your priorities

If you’ve tried everything above and you still don’t feel you have enough time as a couple, then you may have to have a long hard look at your priorities

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10 ways to a balanced Family life

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Bring a balance to your life
By completing your personal Wheel of life, you will be able to look at all aspects of your life.
Enabling you to fine tune each individual section for your greater benefit. Instead of focusing on just one part and allowing that to overwhelm all others.
You can contact me for a personal session or Come and join my fun workshop to examine your wheel of life. Find out where improvements could be made to make your life more balanced, and where you can take back control.
This is a great Visual exercise tool, to help you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting or creating personal targets.
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Struggling with Motivation

Struggling with Motivation
struggling with motivation

GOT TO, NEED TO, WANT TO

When we are looking to do anything this is the first thing we think about.   A highly motivated person lives in a world where they WANT TO do things, not all of us are so lucky

When you feel you have GOT TO do something either because you have been told to, no one else will or you see no productive benefit from it.  This becomes a chore you lack the motivation to accomplish the chore to a good standard and in a reasonable amount of time or even to start it in the first place!

When you feel you NEED TO do something there is still reluctance although you can see a benefit, its still something you have to push yourself to do reaffirming the reason why you NEED TO do the Chore

WANT TO is a different matter.  When we WANT TO do something we are motivated and driven to accomplish the task we look to do the best Job or to be on time.

Take Night Fisherman if the motivation was I’ve GOT TO do this, do you believe they would pack the car and go out on a cold rainy night to sit on a river bank.  Maybe if they NEEDED TO it would be easier.   IF we can move the Motivation to WANT TO ie) so my family can eat.  I enjoy the peace and quiet.  I enjoy the challenge.

Most things are possible when we can move the motivation through these three stages and an individual can say they WANT TO accomplish the Task

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Had a bad month

Had a bad month

Well that’s January done     

had a bad month
Well that’s January done

How did it go ?

The drop in mood after Christmas.

The cold and the damp weather

Did you escape Divorce Monday?

Has the Credit Card bill arrived?

How did miserable Monday go?  The most depressing day of the year

Given up on the New Year Resolutions?

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The Ripple Efect

 

Any one who as a HABIT/ADDICTION, will be engaged in behavior that has a negative effect on every one around them this is the Ripple effect 

Relationships, Home and Family life, Education, Employment, Health, Personality, Finances, The law.

It can be turned around

 

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Addiction

If you have found your way to this page you believe one or more of these statements

  • You have a problem
  • You have an addiction
  • You’re affected by someone who you believe has a problem
  • You want to do something about it
  • You want help but don’t know where to go
  • You’re interested in addiction issues

How can I help you?

Well I have spent the last 26 years within a criminal justice environment, the last 11 of these working as an Addiction councillor. 

Encouraging and coaching people who didn’t necessarily want help, to see there is a future,.

Helping them to explore their options.

 All of this with limited time frames and fixed protocols. I have worked with a number of models including ITEP,  Cognitive Behavioural Approaches, BSFT, Motivational interviewing,  Mental health awareness, Mental health first aid, and a number of other models linked to addiction.

One size does not fit all, we will tailor every plan to your individual needs and include

Motivation to change

The most important thing is your desire to Change your destructive behaviour.  So we will work on strengthening your Motivation to be free,

Goal planning

Who do you see when you look in the mirror are you comfortable with that person, do you congratulate them when you do well.  We will work together to build that relationship that person in the mirror is the one person you can’t lie to.

Coping strategies and triggers

Would you step in the road without looking ?   No ?  I doubt it, you know it’s dangerous and to be avoided.   So I will help you to know your danger areas/signs and build coping strategies to help you cope as you move forward.

Relapse prevention planning

I was doing so well what’s the point

Sound familiar? Sometimes you feel you have taken one step forward and ten back and feel nothing will ever change.  I will help you build your safe plan for the future,

Let’s be honest with ourselves nothing will happen over night, we will work at your pace, you will set your own achievable targets and praise yourself when your reach them

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The GROW model

The GROW Model is one of the most established and successful coaching models. Created by Alexander Graham, Sir John Whitmore and colleagues in the 1980s,

The great thing about working with the GROW model is that you don’t need to be an expert in your client’s specific issues to be able to coach them. The GROW coaching model offers a framework for questioning to elicit goals, obstacles, options and more without ever needing to offer advice or force any particular direction.

What is the Wheel of Life

The Wheel of Life is a great exercise and tool for helping you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting.

A way to take a good, hard look at each facet of your life, and rate its relative quality level, so you can uncover which areas need more attention than others. Consider each area like a spoke of a wheel: When one of the spokes is shorter than the others, the wheel breaks.  By getting this view of your life, discover where the gaps are between where you are today and where you want to be.

Wheel of Life Workshop

This Free workshop

Wheel of Life Workshop
Wheel of Life Workshop

Approximately 2 hours in duration, this workshop encourages you to look at your current life balance.  compare this with your aspirations and explore the small steps you can take towards that dream

You will leave with your own quality work book and hopefully motivated to move onward and upwards

In this workshop we use an assessment tool called the (Wheel of Life)

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