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December 28, 2017

Balance your life deal with Loneliness

Bring Balance to your life

As a starting point for creating balance, happiness and success in your life. The Wheel of Life is the perfect tool to begin your journey. Using this tool, you will be able to reflect and gain some insight into the balance of your life and how satisfied you are in life’s different areas. Following on from this, you can utilise this exercise to further delve into why your wheel of life looks the way it does, what you would like your wheel of life to look like, and further into how to make it happen.

The Wheel of Life Exercise is not to be confused with the Buddhist Wheel of Life. The Wheel of Life used in Buddhism focuses more on an awareness of your mental state. In our Wheel of Life that is commonly used in coaching and goal-setting, it’s purpose is to identify how you’re currently spending your time and how satisfied you are in the different categories of your life.

Next week how you can use the Wheel of life to bring a balance to your life

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Alan Chadwick Coaching — Balance your life deal with Loneliness

December 24, 2017December 24, 2017

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 6

Check how you are feeling

How are you feeling generally? Feeling lonely can be very stressful and can have a big impact on your general wellbeing, which might make it even harder to make positive steps to feeling better.

If you are feeling anxious, stressed or depressed then it is vitally important that you speak to a Doctor or seek other medical advice. There is no shame in admitting that you have a problem, in fact it is the most sensible thing to do as then someone can help you to do something about it.

Being stressed or depressed will make it even harder for you to feel confident enough to go out and meet new people. It might also deteriorate into a more serious condition. Recognising the signs of depression and speaking to a professional about it might be all it takes to get you back on the road to recovery and a new life full of friends and connections.

In a few days I will be talking about how to bring balance to your life and the benefits that this will have not only on yourself but your family and friends too

compliments of the season to you all

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December 23, 2017

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 5

Be careful when comparing yourself to others

It is very hard to stop comparing ourselves to others, we all do it, but it can help to just be aware that things are not always what they seem from the outside.

Everyone sees the world in a slightly different way, We see life through a lens. The lens is made up of our past experiences. These experiences will shape the way we view our surroundings, our friends, our lives and ourselves.

How your friend sees things will not necessarily be the way you see things. You will have had many debates about things in the past which will exemplify this.

Just because your friend is outgoing, the life and soul of the party and extraverted doesn’t mean that you should be the same. The great thing about you is that you are unique. There is no other person who is just like you – anywhere.

By bearing this in mind, you need to form your own opinions of what you like and what you don’t like. You should not be persuaded or coerced into doing something that you don’t like or don’t feel comfortable with. Peer pressure is a difficult thing to deny but deny you must. You need to make your own decisions about your life.

Once you have the courage to tell people what you want and what you like then you will find it much easier to do things you enjoy and avoid the things you don’t.

As mentioned in number 2, joining groups with like minded people who share a common interest or hobby cane be a great way to build connections and new friends and enjoy the process at the same time.

Tomorrow I will share the importance of checking your own feelings.

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December 22, 2017

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 4

Take it slow

If you’ve felt lonely for a long time, or even if you’re surrounded by people, it can be terrifying to think of trying to meet new people, or opening up to people for the first time.

The best approach to this is one day at a time. If you are not used to being in crowds or groups then forcing yourself to do this will be of no use and will in actual fact probably do more harm than good in the long run.

The trick is to find somewhere safe to go. Somewhere where there are no expectations of you. Somewhere you can share a common interest or goal. This might be a community project, a craft or hobby group or a local book club at your library.

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself all at once. Join one thing and see how it goes. Make sure you are a good fit for it so that you actually enjoy it when you get there.

Once you are comfortable in that one group or place then think about joining another. You can build up your social life slowly, one group at a time.

Tomorrow I will share how to grow your confidence

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December 21, 2017December 21, 2017

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

Open up

You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.

This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.

It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.

If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!

Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.

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December 20, 2017December 20, 2017

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 2

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

New connections

It can be helpful to think of feeling lonely like feeling hungry. Just as your body uses hunger to tell your body you need food, loneliness is a way of your body telling you that you need more social contact.

As humans, we are a social species. We are designed to be part of a larger group. This has been passed on to us through thousands of years of evolution. Those humans who grouped together stood a better chance of survival as they helped and nurtured each other.

These humans were the ones to survive and pass on their social genes. Today we are still a product of this natural selection and we need to feel part of something other than ourselves.

Although it can be daunting to go out and seek new friends there are plenty of people, groups and organisations there to help. Join clubs, churches, age concern or even online groups to help you get connected. There are hundreds of groups on Facebook that cover just about any subject you can imagine.

There are local charities that run all sorts of events to engage and include the local community, especially those who are otherwise excluded.

Tomorrow I will share some tips on how you can become less lonely even when you seem to have lots of friends around.

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November 28, 2017November 28, 2017

Do you understand your Family

Is understanding more important than love, especially when it comes

to intimate relationships. Do you know any who adult looks back at there childhood and complain that her parents were too understanding.

Similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but yet they never really understood each other. Don’t get this wrong. I think love is great. I love my children and all of my family.

Is love enough. I work every day at better understanding the people whom I love. The willingness to understand is very important.

It is not always easy, but healthy love is strengthened by the willingness to understand. Love without understanding ?

Well adjusted couples work and learn to understand one another’s evolving needs as the years go by. Alternatively, couples that bite the dust and divorce typically have suffered a breakdown in understanding, or empathy.

Countless individuals reflect back on failed marriages or intimate relationships and say, “I guess we just drifted apart.” This often becomes translated to “I love you but I am no longer in love with you.” Most relationships implode or explode when one or both partners think this way,

When parents, children, spouses or other relationship partners think or say “I’m done with you” are they really saying, “I can’t (or don’t want to) understand you.”

Our egos are what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us.

Empathy, is truly the emotional glue that holds all close relationships together. Empathy allows us to slow down and try to walk in the shoes of those we love. The deeper our empathy, the deeper-and healthier-our love. Not all relationships are meant to be. Yet all relationships that are meant to flourish in a healthy way.

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November 22, 2017November 22, 2017

The Ripple Efect

Any one who as a HABIT/ADDICTION, will be engaged in behavior that has a negative effect on every one around them this is the Ripple effect

Relationships, Home and Family life, Education, Employment, Health, Personality, Finances, The law.

It can be turned around

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What is the Wheel of Life

The Wheel of Life is a great exercise and tool for helping you create more balance and success in your life. It is often used in coaching and is a great foundation exercise when goal-setting.

A way to take a good, hard look at each facet of your life, and rate its relative quality level, so you can uncover which areas need more attention than others. Consider each area like a spoke of a wheel: When one of the spokes is shorter than the others, the wheel breaks. By getting this view of your life, discover where the gaps are between where you are today and where you want to be.

Wheel of Life Workshop

This Free workshop

Approximately 2 hours in duration, this workshop encourages you to look at your current life balance. compare this with your aspirations and explore the small steps you can take towards that dream

You will leave with your own quality work book and hopefully motivated to move onward and upwards

In this workshop we use an assessment tool called the (Wheel of Life)

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