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Take it slow
If you’ve felt lonely for a long time, or even if you’re surrounded by people, it can be terrifying to think of trying to meet new people, or opening up to people for the first time.
The best approach to this is one day at a time. If you are not used to being in crowds or groups then forcing yourself to do this will be of no use and will in actual fact probably do more harm than good in the long run.
The trick is to find somewhere safe to go. Somewhere where there are no expectations of you. Somewhere you can share a common interest or goal. This might be a community project, a craft or hobby group or a local book club at your library.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself all at once. Join one thing and see how it goes. Make sure you are a good fit for it so that you actually enjoy it when you get there.
Once you are comfortable in that one group or place then think about joining another. You can build up your social life slowly, one group at a time.
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You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.
This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.
It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.
If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!
Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
It can be helpful to think of feeling lonely like feeling hungry. Just as your body uses hunger to tell your body you need food, loneliness is a way of your body telling you that you need more social contact.
As humans, we are a social species. We are designed to be part of a larger group. This has been passed on to us through thousands of years of evolution. Those humans who grouped together stood a better chance of survival as they helped and nurtured each other.
These humans were the ones to survive and pass on their social genes. Today we are still a product of this natural selection and we need to feel part of something other than ourselves.
Although it can be daunting to go out and seek new friends there are plenty of people, groups and organisations there to help. Join clubs, churches, age concern or even online groups to help you get connected. There are hundreds of groups on Facebook that cover just about any subject you can imagine.
There are local charities that run all sorts of events to engage and include the local community, especially those who are otherwise excluded.
Tomorrow I will share some tips on how you can become less lonely even when you seem to have lots of friends around.
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
Think about what is making you lonely
Being alone is not the same as being lonely. There is nothing wrong with being on your own if you are comfortable with it.
People usually describe feeling lonely for one of two reasons:
They simply don’t see or talk to anyone very often
Even though they are surrounded by people, they don’t feel understood or cared for.
Identifying the reasons why you feel lonely can be the first step in finding company. Is it that you don’t or can’t get out much on your own? Is it that you don’t feel confident in a crowd and so avoid new people and places? Is it that you are new to a place and have not yet made any friends?
By knowing what is causing the loneliness it will be easier to do something about it so if this is how you feel, or how a loved one feels then try asking them to think about what would make things better for them.
Once you know what could make things better then you can get to work on a plan to make it happen.
Tomorrow I will talk about the importance of connection in our society and how you can help yourself to become more connected.
Feeling lonely isn’t in itself a mental health problem, but the two are strongly linked. Having a mental health problem increases your chance of feeling lonely, and feeling lonely can have a negative impact on your mental health
Everyone has different social needs. You may be someone who is content with a few close friends, or you may need a large group of varied acquaintances to feel satisfied.
Bringing a balance to your life will help
Tomorrow 6 tips to Balance your life and deal with loneliness.
Tiger Woods, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson and Arnold Schwarzenegger are just a few examples of successful people that have had coaching and it’s no surprise that many of them have raved about its benefits.
More and more people are choosing to work with a life coach to help them improve their relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted or transition from an employee to an entrepreneur.
Assisting others to realise their strengths, enhance their self-awareness and create a better way of life are just a few of the ways a coach can help others to pave their way forwards.
If you are considering getting some coaching, below are 5 ways a coach could benefit you:
Find your purpose
A life coach can help you to discover what is meaningful to you away from the expectations or goals of others.
Working with a coach provides you with the opportunity to sort through your mental and emotional clutter so that you can gain clarity on your needs and wants.
A life coach can provide you with a safe space to explore your inner world so that you’re able to gain valuable insight into who you really are. This can help you to identify your strengths and values, as well as learn what truly matters to you as an individual.
Working with a life coach can help you to feel more empowered with your decisions, encouraging you to stretch past your comfort zone and take daily action steps towards making your dream a reality. Combining your action steps with the support of a coach as you move forwards can help you to build your confidence and sense of pride.
A life coach understands how to break down a big goal into smaller more manageable steps, allowing you to avoid feelings of overwhelm and move at a pace that works for you. Stretching out of your comfort zone can present challenges and a life coach is able to assist you in overcoming any turbulence so that you can maintain motivation as you move towards the finish line of your goal.
Working with a coach can benefit your life in a variety of ways including improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight but perhaps one of the most valuable benefits is avoiding the long route towards what it is that you want to achieve. Time is one of the most precious assets we have and a coach can help you to maximise the use of yours by helping you to plan out a direct route towards your destination, saving you time, frustrations and anxieties that may have previously stopped you.