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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 3

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

You might feel that you have plenty of connections, but what is actually wrong is that you don’t feel close to them, or they don’t give you the care and attention you need.

This might simply be a case that you are not communicating your needs to them. You are expecting them to know what you need and this is usually a tricky thing. Only you can really know what you need so it is up to you to let your friends and family know so that they can help.

It may be that you are inadvertently covering up your feelings. You might be pretending that all is well when it isn’t. This is common mistake that people make in our society. Stiff upper lip is not the way to go. You need to tell people what’s wrong if you ever expect them to do anything to help you change it.

If you are not happy talking to a friend then speak to a doctor, a trusted co-worker or a professional such as a psychologist or life coach. The important thing is that you tell SOMEONE!

Tomorrow I will talk about how to get over the fear of meeting new people.

 

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 

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6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness 
6 tips to Balance your life and deal with Loneliness

It can be helpful to think of feeling lonely like feeling hungry. Just as your body uses hunger to tell your body you need food, loneliness is a way of your body telling you that you need more social contact.

As humans, we are a social species. We are designed to be part of a larger group. This has been passed on to us through thousands of years of evolution. Those humans who grouped together stood a better chance of survival as they helped and nurtured each other.

These humans were the ones to survive and pass on their social genes. Today we are still a product of this natural selection and we need to feel part of something other than ourselves.

Although it can be daunting to go out and seek new friends there are plenty of people, groups and organisations there to help. Join clubs, churches, age concern or even online groups to help you get connected. There are hundreds of groups on Facebook that cover just about any subject you can imagine.

There are local charities that run all sorts of events to engage and include the local community, especially those who are otherwise excluded.

Tomorrow I will share some tips on how you can become less lonely even when you seem to have lots of friends around.

Want to Talk Call Alan 07504539043

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5 ways to Improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted.

improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight
improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight

Tiger Woods, Barack Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Richard Branson and Arnold Schwarzenegger are just a few examples of successful people that have had coaching and it’s no surprise that many of them have raved about its benefits.

More and more people are choosing to work with a life coach to help them improve their relationships, increase confidence, lose weight, get promoted or transition from an employee to an entrepreneur.

Assisting others to realise their strengths, enhance their self-awareness and create a better way of life are just a few of the ways a coach can help others to pave their way forwards.

If you are considering getting some coaching, below are 5 ways a coach could benefit you:

  1. Find your purpose
    A life coach can help you to discover what is meaningful to you away from the expectations or goals of others.
  2. Get clarity
    Working with a coach provides you with the opportunity to sort through your mental and emotional clutter so that you can gain clarity on your needs and wants.
  3. Enhanced self-reflection
    A life coach can provide you with a safe space to explore your inner world so that you’re able to gain valuable insight into who you really are. This can help you to identify your strengths and values, as well as learn what truly matters to you as an individual.
  4. Build confidence
    Working with a life coach can help you to feel more empowered with your decisions, encouraging you to stretch past your comfort zone and take daily action steps towards making your dream a reality. Combining your action steps with the support of a coach as you move forwards can help you to build your confidence and sense of pride.
  5. Maintain momentum
    A life coach understands how to break down a big goal into smaller more manageable steps, allowing you to avoid feelings of overwhelm and move at a pace that works for you. Stretching out of your comfort zone can present challenges and a life coach is able to assist you in overcoming any turbulence so that you can maintain motivation as you move towards the finish line of your goal.

Working with a coach can benefit your life in a variety of ways including improve relationships, increase confidence, lose weight  but perhaps one of the most valuable benefits is avoiding the long route towards what it is that you want to achieve. Time is one of the most precious assets we have and a coach can help you to maximise the use of yours by helping you to plan out a direct route towards your destination, saving you time, frustrations and anxieties that may have previously stopped you.

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Do you understand your Family

Is understanding  more important than love, especially when it comes to intimate relationships.  Do you know any who adult looks back at there childhood and complain that her parents were too understanding.
Similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but yet they never really understood each other.  Don’t get this wrong. I think love is great. I love my children and all of my family.
Is love enough. I work every day at better understanding the people whom I love. The willingness to understand is very important.
It is not always easy, but healthy love is strengthened by the willingness to understand. Love without understanding ?
Well adjusted couples work and learn to understand one another’s evolving needs as the years go by. Alternatively, couples that bite the dust and divorce typically have suffered a breakdown in understanding, or empathy.
Countless individuals reflect back on failed marriages or intimate relationships and say, “I guess we just drifted apart.”  This often becomes translated to “I love you but I am no longer in love with you.” Most relationships implode or explode when one or both partners think this way,

When parents, children, spouses or other relationship partners think or say “I’m done with you”  are they really saying, “I can’t (or don’t want to) understand you.”
Our egos are what seem to get in the way of understanding those who we love and care about. Often it is our need to be right that makes what others think and feel so wrong for us.
Empathy, is truly the emotional glue that holds all close relationships together. Empathy allows us to slow down and try to walk in the shoes of those we love. The deeper our empathy, the deeper-and healthier-our love. Not all relationships are meant to be. Yet all relationships that are meant to flourish in a healthy way.
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The Ripple Efect

 

Any one who as a HABIT/ADDICTION, will be engaged in behavior that has a negative effect on every one around them this is the Ripple effect 

Relationships, Home and Family life, Education, Employment, Health, Personality, Finances, The law.

It can be turned around

 

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Alan Chadwick Coaching

 

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According to Shopaholics Anonymous, there are several different types of shopaholics, and they are as follows:

  • Compulsive shopaholics who shop when they are feeling emotional distress
  • Trophy shopaholics who are always shopping for the perfect item
  • Shopaholics who want the image of being a big spender and love flashy items
  • Bargain seekers who purchase items they don’t need because they are on sale
  • Bulimic shoppers who get caught in a vicious cycle of buying and returning
  • Collectors who don’t feel complete unless they have one item in each colour or every piece of a set

What to talk your thoughts through; Call Alan

Addiction

If you have found your way to this page you believe one or more of these statements

  • You have a problem
  • You have an addiction
  • You’re affected by someone who you believe has a problem
  • You want to do something about it
  • You want help but don’t know where to go
  • You’re interested in addiction issues

How can I help you?

Well I have spent the last 26 years within a criminal justice environment, the last 11 of these working as an Addiction councillor. 

Encouraging and coaching people who didn’t necessarily want help, to see there is a future,.

Helping them to explore their options.

 All of this with limited time frames and fixed protocols. I have worked with a number of models including ITEP,  Cognitive Behavioural Approaches, BSFT, Motivational interviewing,  Mental health awareness, Mental health first aid, and a number of other models linked to addiction.

One size does not fit all, we will tailor every plan to your individual needs and include

Motivation to change

The most important thing is your desire to Change your destructive behaviour.  So we will work on strengthening your Motivation to be free,

Goal planning

Who do you see when you look in the mirror are you comfortable with that person, do you congratulate them when you do well.  We will work together to build that relationship that person in the mirror is the one person you can’t lie to.

Coping strategies and triggers

Would you step in the road without looking ?   No ?  I doubt it, you know it’s dangerous and to be avoided.   So I will help you to know your danger areas/signs and build coping strategies to help you cope as you move forward.

Relapse prevention planning

I was doing so well what’s the point

Sound familiar? Sometimes you feel you have taken one step forward and ten back and feel nothing will ever change.  I will help you build your safe plan for the future,

Let’s be honest with ourselves nothing will happen over night, we will work at your pace, you will set your own achievable targets and praise yourself when your reach them

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The GROW model

The GROW Model is one of the most established and successful coaching models. Created by Alexander Graham, Sir John Whitmore and colleagues in the 1980s,

The great thing about working with the GROW model is that you don’t need to be an expert in your client’s specific issues to be able to coach them. The GROW coaching model offers a framework for questioning to elicit goals, obstacles, options and more without ever needing to offer advice or force any particular direction.